Thursday, June 30, 2011

"Inspiration Of The Day"... The greater strength, resides within !!!

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Sensitive... or DeSensitized?

....ok now Ladies please feel free to comment. Is it me or after 40 and after more than 1 or 2 children you become more sensitive or desensitive to the goings on with them? At times when my newborn(5.5 months) begins to cry I look over to her (thinking.. she's dry, fed..etc) and continue with the cleaning that Im already engrossed in. Now that don't make me a bad mom... Im just a busy mom (don't judge me) LOL. Now with my 7 going on 8 year old is wanting my attention... I ask him "aren't you too old to be acting like that"? but is he? Then I have the 24 going on 25 year old... and when she needs my help or attention.... I ask her "can you get the baby... don't you hear her crying".... then she asks.... "Where's daddy"? Whewwww so DESENSITIZED (today)...NO JUDGMENTS
Benita 42

"Inspiration Of The Day"... To Thyself... Be True!!!

..... Moms, don't overdoit!!!!

Saturday, June 25, 2011

"Inspiration of the Day"....

"Just as the universe wants to provide for our needs, it also seeks to protect us from dangerous situations, destructive relationships, and even minor inconveniences."

Friday, June 24, 2011

Taking FEAR out of conception after "40"....

We women in our 40's, and even late 30's have had some Fears about conception in this stage of our life due to "Birth Defects". Once a women become a certain age, Dr's categorize us as High Risk, high risk of our babies born with all types of issues and or complications. They begin doing all kinds test on you and your un-born child (if you allow) to "rule out" or "confirm" their concerns. Now let me say, you should follow every precaution to make sure you and you future legacy are safe, but this can bring a lot of anxieties and pre-mature nervousness and or fear. Do not allow FEAR to hinder you from conception! We are very fortunate to have doctors, resources, research etc. to dispel and calm ones fears. So I encourage you to put away Fear, and look forward to conception after 40!!!
Benita ;) 42

"Inspiration of the Day"........ Be not weary on well doing, you will reap if you faint not!!

Thursday, June 23, 2011

The Older Mother- More or Less Experienced!

So early in my Mommydome I caught a few episodes of "16 And Pregnant"! Wow, from the 'mature' standpoint I thought, "how wonderful a show educated the youth about the challenges of being a mother". Then I watched the show.

I found myself relating wholeheartedly to the same plights as these teenagers. We were having similar anxieties and difficulties adjusting to this new life. From the pregnancy fears, new life responsibilities, to "how do I care for this person?"- What a crazy circumstance to be a grown adult and totally relate more to this life altering event when you cant even understand the music of today's teens. I saw girls who were as tired as I was, who didn't care so much about "being cute" anymore. Their entire beings belonged to a person less that ten pounds in most cases. I definitely could relate.

Now, with a budding two year older I tend to think my adult experience affords me the ability to be an understanding, compassionate and educated mother. However, the latest quandary is for all my experience my little girl seems, daily, to be smarter than me. We shall see if experience prevails in this instance.

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Welcome to our space where mothers who have either decided to wait to have a child or had another child in their most "prime" years, their 40s, can dialogue and share the joys, emotional variables, challenges, and information about being a mother.

40+Babies felt like there was a void in many conversations with regard to being a "late model" mom. Let's talk about it here. Dispel a few myths, share a few coping recipes and support our mission to empower those of us who have decided to put an even fancier spin on "40 & Fabulous"!